“You are too good for him/her!”
“Why don’t you leave him/her already?”
Sometimes people try to shame us out of toxic love. Sometimes we try to do this to ourselves.
Or worse, be feel so much shame about that dysfunctional relationship we are STILL in, that we clam up and talk to nobody about it.
Not even ourselves.
We feel so much shame that we start to hate ourselves. Or we become whiny and weird and feel shame about that.
Shame spreads like a very sticky virus. We start to feel shame about the way our bodies look. We start to feel shame that we seem to be unable to do anything about it. We start to feel shame about the way our kids act. We start to feel shame about our homes, our work, our education. About the way we speak. We diet or indulge in harmful stuff hate our bodies because these are what we are and these are the reason we are living that unworthy existence.
Than we feel even more shame.
Trying to shame ourselves out of emotional addiction is like trying to shame ourselves out of growing cancer cells.
(an approach taken by some misguided healers).
The Empress is shameless
Fear is the vibration of “I might die”.
Shame is the vibration of “I should not even be alive”.
Fear is the vibration of “I might lose love”.
Shame is the vibration of “I should never be loved at all”.
If we feel unable to push toxic people out of our lives we can instead try to invite our own lost parts back into our lives. The one we have long ago shamed out of it.
We can tenderly embrace all those wounded, addicted, unfulfilled parts and bring them back to oneness.
This is a gentle and slow process and it will take our intention off of destruction and shame and back into healing.
The Empress is shameless.